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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Welcome to The Power Lounge! Join host Amy Vaughn and Diamond Drip as they delve into overcoming imposter syndrome, aligning with natural design, and achieving genuine leadership. Explore the experiences of two skilled women, emphasizing the importance of aligning with natural design for positive outcomes. Dive into human design profiles, urging internal validation. Reflect on emotional intelligence and societal impact.
Join us to learn how embracing authenticity and reshaping success can lead to genuine leadership and empowerment. Discover actionable insights for conquering imposter syndrome and unlocking your true potential.
Connect with Diamond:
Guest LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diamonddrip/
Guest Instagram: Instagram (@diamonddripsdiscussions)
Guest Website: https://elevateherworth.com/diamond-drip/
Episode Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
00:51 - Empowering Women to Overcome Self-Doubt Limits
03:44 - Harnessing Video to Conquer Fear and Boost Confidence
09:09 - Navigating Pressure for Executive Leadership Development
12:09 - Embracing Human Design: Unlocking Innate Gifts
14:05 - Countering Imposter Syndrome by Embracing Uniqueness
21:38 - Simplifying Decision-Making by Trusting Gut Feelings
23:59 - Overcoming Fear of Judgment to Embrace Personal Power
28:11 - Understanding Energy and Design Capacity
32:52 - Empathy Without Emotional Overwhelm
34:37 - Valuing Intuition Amidst Logic Prioritization
40:20 - Trusting Internal Guidance and Self-Reflection
42:37 - Gene Keys: Transforming Shadows into Personal Strengths
47:33 - Following Instincts Beyond Algorithmic Engagement Rules
51:36 - Authenticity: Embracing Your True Self
53:56 - Access Human Design Chart and Resources on Website
57:47 - Balancing Knowledge, Reputation, and Advice with Human Design
01:00:45 - Outro
Quote of the Episode:
"When you follow what truly feels right for you, not only do you find more success, but you also experience greater fulfillment." - Diamond Drip
"To unlock our full potential, we must be true to ourselves and break free from societal pressures and false expectations."- Diamond Drip
All right. Hello everyone, and welcome to our weekly power lounge. This is your place to hear authentic conversations from those who have power to share. My name is Amy Vaughn and I am the owner and chief empowerment officer of Together Digital, a diverse and collaborative community of women who share their knowledge, power and connections. You can join the movement at togetherindigitalcom, and today we are tackling something that resonates with so many of us that nagging little voice called imposter syndrome that whispers to us to say that oftentimes that you are not enough, and I could not be more excited to introduce to you our guest today, diamond Drip, who is here to show all of us how you can turn that voice down or shut it down in most cases, let's hope right With our authentic power.
Speaker 1:Diamond is a brilliant coach and a speaker who has been featured in New York Weekly and the QED Inc on QED Radio. She has taken her background in visual communications and brand strategy and combined it with the fascinating worlds of human design and gene keys to help women break free from self-doubt and step into their true potential. What I love about Diamond is that she is not just sharing a theory. She has walked this path herself, transforming from a stressed out entrepreneur into a confident leader who helps others do the same. And one of my favorite things that she says is that the limit doesn't exist, but fear and self-doubt will make you think it does. Love a good quote. So whether you're questioning your qualifications, gosh, comparing yourself to others talk about the thief of joy right there or you're ready to just trust yourself more deeply, you are in for some great learning and new tools to be able to explore and help yourself make that shift from imposter to empowered. Diamond. Welcome to the Power Lounge. Really excited to have you here with us today and to dive into this conversation.
Speaker 2:I'm so excited to be here with you, amy, and our listeners. As much as I don't like imposter syndrome, I love talking about ways that you can combat it, because so many of us battle it. It doesn't matter you know what point you are. Imposter syndrome kind of goes with you.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. And it's been one thing honestly lately that I have been taking into account how many people feel it. Not just women Men as well feel a deep sense of this. They're just not willing to admit it. So, fellas, if you're listening, this is for you too. Okay, right, let's get vulnerable here. And I also just want to say I have only just recently learned of human design. Oh my gosh, we could have a whole another hour episode on this. I think it's just absolutely fascinating.
Speaker 1:Everyone who listens to this podcast knows I love personal development, anything that helps one me understand myself more deeply, because what I love about that is it helps me understand others more deeply. I think it makes us better humans. It makes us better parents, better leaders. That kind of stuff is just really cool. Gene Keys is newer to me, so I'm excited to learn more about both of those things and to let our listeners learn more about these things, because I've been nerding out. But before we get into any of that, I would love for you to take us back to your days in visual communication and brand strategy, a space a lot of our women in Together Digital are in, and share with us a little bit about that and what really first clued you into what might be. You know, there might be a deeper layer into helping people show up more authentically.
Speaker 2:Absolutely so. When I was predominantly talking about visual communications and brand strategy, one of the ways that I would always encourage my clients to get out there was through video, and that's when all the stuff would come up right. The fear of judgment, the fear of engagement, the fear of you know what if I say something wrong and I'm like this is your message how can you say your message wrong? Like it was baffling to me, and I was at a point in my own professional journey where I was trying to figure out what my business superpower was and I found that it was.
Speaker 2:When I found these tools, everything kind of just clicked. And once I started to see how much these tools were helping me step into my authenticity and not just step into it, but be confident in my ability to do the thing, because so many of us with imposter syndrome, we question our ability to do the thing, we question whether we actually belong at the table. And here I had this tangible blueprint of like no, you're designed to do the thing. And once I started experimenting with how it could work for me, I was like, oh, there's no way, right, like it's like the best kept secret. It's like no way, yeah, it's no way, especially because, like I said, it helped me. But then I received more validation on just how it worked, because I pulled my daughter's design, I pulled my partner's design and I was like oh my gosh, these are cheat codes for you guys too.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love the term cheat codes, that's such a great analogy, yeah, and we'll get into the definition and into deep diving more about human design and well and what that means. But you know you mentioned your own journey from stressed out entrepreneur to a confident leader and I'm just curious, like what was the turning point that made you realize that something needed to change? Like sometimes that's part of the journey, right Is like that self awareness and recognition that I need to stop and slow down and something has to change.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So I was in a year-long business coaching program that taught a framework that you know many of us have been in this scenario, especially if you've been in the coaching space for a while. You enter this program and it's know we're gonna teach you the steps that you need to create this amazing income and impact in your business. And you know I'm doing the things. I'm seeing other people have success and I'm not having success. And I'm like how, how is that possible? Like, especially coming from a background where external validation was something that, you know, I related or equated to my success, and so I was always a straight A student and I'm like I'm doing all the stuff that would give me a straight A in executing these frameworks and somehow something is misaligned.
Speaker 2:And you know, when things didn't work, I doubled down, I bought into more intensives and I was like this is insane. How am I, you know, spending all this time and money and energy and effort learning these frameworks and like somehow there's still a disconnect frameworks, and like somehow there's still a disconnect. And so it wasn't, until I realized I was like, well, you're, you're actually like, you're doing things. Some things are, you know, creating traction, creating some form of success. It just doesn't look how you want. So why don't you take a look at what you're defining as success and you and you redefine that for yourself, for yourself. So that was really like the business coaching program. It brought up a lot of stuff, and so that realization that you know come to Jesus moment, as it were. It was the thing that was like, okay, something has to change. And instead of seeking out more external things, why don't you look internally and see what's in there instead?
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I want to share this story really quickly because it just happened yesterday. It's not exactly in alignment with, like, the human design aspect of things, but it is this. It's exactly what you're describing in the sense of we often go outside of ourselves to find the answers. And in this context I'm in a room full of women leaders going through a women leader cohort for mostly women in corporate, and we're talking about and discussing executive presence. And as we're discussing it, it's just rubbing me the wrong way and I can't explain in the moment quite how it's rubbing me the wrong way. But as the other women in the room are having their moments kind of verbally processing and expressing, what I'm hearing and realizing is that they're grappling with. They want to really just know what it means to be authentically themselves as leaders and not be told what a leader should look and act like.
Speaker 1:And I said how often are men asked to work on their executive leadership? But how many times in an annual review have you been asked or approached to work on your executive leadership or put in a situation where you're like here's this article women read this article executive presence, you know, because it's just a given. And so it's like we're constantly being asked to put into, be put into these containers or work within these guardrails. And I do think burnout comes not from the overextension of ourselves in the sense of constantly working too much. It's almost working against the things that we think are supposed to be the things that we're working towards. So it's like the shoulds right and it's like those constant running up against the shoulds and the containers that other people have built for us. And there was just this moment that when I was like you know, why are we even talking about executive presence Like we have it? It's just really about how we want to define it for ourselves.
Speaker 1:This one woman who works for a very, very like corporate company in the sense that they still have to show up in suits every day in the office five days a week says I have been poring over executive presence books.
Speaker 1:I probably have five of them at home.
Speaker 1:I am throwing them all away. I'm getting rid of all of them. I'm throwing them all away and I am going to spend more time with myself journaling and looking at how I lead and how I want to show up in the room, how I want to make people feel, and journaling and looking at how I lead and how I want to show up in the room, how I want to make people feel, and that's going to be my executive presence and it was just such a wonderful moment to see that it was just like I want to stand up and applaud for her, just to kind of see that. I want to Right. It was just so cool, I mean, because, especially I know I've been there, I've been that person that's like this is the model, this is the behavior. If I want to succeed, this is what I need to follow and this is where human design, I think, is such a fascinating, fascinating break down what it is and why it is such a powerful tool overall, but also in the context of overcoming imposter syndrome.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely so. Human design is a synthesis of a bunch of different ancient and modern sciences, and what it does is it actually maps them over each other to create what we in human design call a body graph, and when you look at this body graph, it shows you how your energy flows, it shows you what your strengths are, and there's so much insight that can be gained down to what environment you thrive best in, how you digest food, and what your perspective is and motivation is when you're moving throughout the world. And one of the things that I have found to be deeply satisfying in human design is the main theory behind it. So we as souls incarnated in this lifetime to experience ourselves, and so what I love about human design is it helps you to almost navigate and move through and welcome opportunities with less resistance, similar to the story that you told about the person that you met a couple of days ago, or was it yesterday?
Speaker 2:We spend so much energy and effort trying to be what we think we should be, or trying to be who other people expect us to be, and what human design does is it's like no, this is how you were designed. These were the gifts that your soul chose in this lifetime to be successful, and if you stop trying to control everything, because we as humans, especially from a cultural perspective, we have come to this belief that if we just plan enough, if we just do enough things that we can control the outcome, we just do enough things that we can control the outcome. And many of us are learning and seeing that that's actually not. That's actually not true.
Speaker 2:Like there are so many sayings about you know, life is happening. Life is, you know, doing things while you're busy making plans, and it's so true. So one of the things that I love most is that it's this kind of surrender that happens. It's like, OK, well, if we are able to let go of this sense of control that we think that we have over the situation and get out of our heads and get into our bodies and tap into the wisdom of our vessel, and the gifts that we were, you know that are that we chose in this lifetime, the gifts that we were, you know that are that we chose in this lifetime, we can welcome and redefine success with so much less resistance, without bumping into so many different things. And so, when it comes to the context of imposter syndrome, one of the things that I found is that it helps you understand what makes you different.
Speaker 2:A lot of people say that human design is the science of differentiation, and so, with that in mind, when you start to understand that literally so I've pulled over 200 human design charts at this point and not a single one of them looks exactly like somebody else's and so it's this kind of understanding that how can you know, there's that saying of like comparing apples to oranges. If we are all designed differently, why are we comparing ourselves to things that are outside of ourselves, to people that are outside of ourselves, to accomplishments that you know we? We have our own accomplishments and so that's really at the root of imposter syndrome. Is this kind of comparison, this feeling of being like you know you should be further along or you should have this many things because that person has as many things. And when you start to understand that we're all like, all know we're different, but like this is like tangible, your energy flows differently. It's like well, how can I compare myself to this other person?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, it's like looking at two different cars. It's like having like a tiny little fuel efficient electric car versus like a Ferrari and saying they're going to get to the same place at the same time in the same way. You know, it's just, it's not, there's no comparison. And when you take comparison out of the equation, yeah, there is a lot less suffering. I also have loved learning. You know outside of, like the energy types, like the manifesting type, specific and non-specific, you know the ways in which you are meant to manifest.
Speaker 1:I have two friends that are both restaurateurs, both about to open up a restaurant actually one who has and one who is working on it, and the one who already has is just, you know it's been rough. You know physically, mentally, emotionally, and you know I worry about her in the sense of like all that she has been through to get this place open and she has just been planning every moment of every day for the last more than six months. It's been a year and six months probably. She works close to 120 hours a week and you know you can see it and feel it on her week and you can see it and feel it on her and the other friend, so very similar type of restaurant is working on opening it yet also traveling to Italy and had the whole restaurant flood out two weeks before the restaurant was meant to open.
Speaker 1:And we're getting together, we're having a conversation, and one asks, you know, one asks the other well, what are you going to do? Are you going to do a soft opening? Are you delaying your hard opening? You know very specific questions, right? And the other friend's, like you know, I mean, I'll just, I'll figure it out.
Speaker 1:So very nonspecific, and in that moment I was like, oh my gosh, I wonder what both of your human design types are like. So I put them into, I pull up their charts, right, I know? See, I'm such a nerd about this already. Pull up their charts. And what do you know? One, they're both manifesting generators. So not much of a surprise there.
Speaker 1:They share some very similar gifts and they are both non-specific. The first woman that is driving herself into the ground and making herself sick, who was insisting on being so specific, is working so out of alignment, like she's getting there, but she's so unwell in the process, you know, while the other one is, you know, you know, she's like, just like her, she's got a catering business. Everything is like going her way. Sometimes I joke and say that she's like sat on a leprechaun because she's just so damn lucky, like so much stuff comes her way and it's just, you know, she just manifests such great opportunities and business for herself and such a great team and again, definitely works hard, but it just it does like you said, it just comes easy. It seems to come so much easier and she's so much lighter because of it and it really?
Speaker 2:I think it is non-specific. Go ahead. What? Do you remember what her profile was? Does she have a two in there?
Speaker 1:Oh, let me look, I probably I have them in my app so, yeah, I can tell you really quickly. It's so I think they might've even had like the same. They might've even had the same number types, and I do love this you are right Like this whole having and being able to put your people in. So the no, actually, this is interesting. So they're both, they have same numbers, but they're oh no, they're both three fives.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay.
Speaker 1:They're both three fives and I'm not quite as familiar with, like the, the numbers quite yet. So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So the reason I asked, and it might even be in one of their cause. You know, on both sides there's all those numbers next to the planet. So I'm wondering if one of those there's a two in like the business sphere, because the two and this kind of dives into gene keys a little bit. The two is like known as the dancer. They kind of dance through life and so, consequently, they question whether or not they belong at the table sometimes because things just come easy and people kind of brush them off. But like it's, it's so visible to see. So I was. I always get curious.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is fascinating. So, like as I'm just having this conversation, I'm like, oh well. Well, crystal's clearly nonspecific because she's just like I'm going to roll with this, like stuff happens and I'm just going to go with it. And Kristen's like, oh my gosh, everything has to be planned to the nth degree. And then when I pulled up her chart, I was like, oh wow, like you're, I get that you feel this sense that this is how you have to exist in the world, but your design is saying that you're nonspecific. You're working against your design. What would it look like for you to just to let go a little bit, you know, and maybe let manifest things by letting things just happen?
Speaker 2:That's really hard for three lines sometimes. So the three is like the trial and error, the martyr, and so with our conditioning, especially when you think about like going into the restaurant business there's so much conditioning around like that's one of like the hardest businesses to start and keep, because so many businesses right.
Speaker 2:And so there's all this conditioning, and so when, when you're I don't know if this was the first time they, they learned their human design. But when you're I don't know if this was the first time they, they learned their human design. But yeah, when you're a three and you don't. Yeah, when you're a three and you don't know that you're a three. If you are constantly bumping into things like you through conditioning, you shift into this mode of like well, I don't want to keep learning lessons, I want to just get it right the first time, and they kind of veer into perfectionism almost versus embracing the three and just being like, okay, well, this didn't pan out how I wanted it to, but what can I learn from this?
Speaker 2:you know lesson? And so talk about going against your design. Threes are meant to bump into things. That's how they learn into things. That's how they learn. And so when you're into perfectionism, it's like you're gonna face resistance because you're going against your process of how you interact with the world. Oh gosh, yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 1:So I would say the other thing I love about human design has been it's really been insightful for me and I think this would really to help with people's imposter syndrome. Honestly, is your authority Getting more in touch with how you make decisions? I am sacral authority and so learning that my gut is how I make decisions and when the world tells me that I shouldn't be going on my instincts and that I shouldn't go on my first feeling, but also learning that my gut likes yes and no questions so simple things like coaching my husband to say don't ask me what's for dinner or what do I want for dinner, say do you want Thai food, I will say the yes or no that I like Other questions will overwhelm me. Outside of the decision fatigue alone. Just learning and how to coach you know friends, family, coworkers, whomever own just learning and how to coach you know friends, family, co workers, whomever you know to sort of appeal towards my sacral authority really does help.
Speaker 1:But then also just affirming that like my gut is my strongest sense in decision making is great, because I can't tell you how many times that is always proven. You know, in my business and work life where it's like this has always been my first choice, and then people make me doubt it, and then I have to go the long route and then we always just come back to where I started and I'm like, come on, so learning, learning your authority, I think, is another really, really great. Like you said, it's almost like it's, it's just it's reaffirming and it helps you get past that imposter syndrome once you kind of understand your design past that imposter syndrome once you kind of understand your design.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I would say, inner authority is probably. You know any person you ask they'd say that your strategy and authority is the most important thing about your human design. So the more you can experiment and practice with it. So I love that you're like coaching people around you to be like yes or no questions and then actually giving yourself the space to just feel into your body and trust what comes up for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, and just trying to condition it to be right because we've been there's so much to unlearn, because it is hard, like I think, as women specifically, we're put, we're taught to put other people's needs before and especially as mothers, which we were just discussing before. We got on the call, both of us with head colds and sinuses, kids colds yay, everybody's needs are put first.
Speaker 1:So it's like reconditioning that secret authority is hard, so it does take practice and time. On that note, you've worked with a lot of women leaders and I was kind of curious what are some of the most common self-doubt patterns you see on this topic of imposter syndrome, and how does understanding your human design help to start to break them? I feel like we've touched on some of them, but what are some other ones you've seen?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so some of the ones that we've touched on a little bit already is this fear of judgment, this fear of stepping into your voice, your message, your power, really your gifts, because you're afraid that you might step on toes Like even with like you were talking about sacred authority. That then implies that you have an open or undefined emotional solar plexus, and for a lot of people who have that, because they take in the energy from those around them, people who have that because they take in the energy from those around them like they want to, they're like I don't want to see or feel you like down or sad or whatever, so like how can I fix it, how can I make it better? Versus recognizing that they just kind of have to get through it themselves. And so it's kind of like releasing this conditioning around like what they think they or how they think they should or have to show up and stepping into like no, and so one of the things that I found that's been really helpful has been around the incarnation cross piece, which you know this this is human design, but this is also where you start bringing in some of the gene keys a little bit.
Speaker 2:But with the incarnation cross there's three types.
Speaker 2:There's a right angle, so those people who are here to have a really personal journey. So they're here to learn how to operate, they're here to heal themselves and then, if they so choose, they can then share that information with other people so that they can heal themselves as well. If you're a left angle, then you came here and you've got some karma from a past lifetime that you're actually here to clean up, so you're here to have a really transpersonal journey. You need people in your life to help remind you of your purpose, to help remind you of your why, and then you have juxtaposition, which is like a fixed fate, and so, even at that base level, it's this again and I'll probably keep saying it to many other questions it's this surrender of like. Okay, well, if I'm here to have this, I'll say you know most.
Speaker 2:I learned recently that most people are actually right angle crosses, so they're here to have this relief. Yeah, I was like. Oh, I thought most of us were left angles, okay, um, but I guess just the people that I attract are left angles, cause I'm like I'm going to say I'm left angle.
Speaker 1:I just looked.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm like I must, but that's aligned, because I'm here having this transpersonal journey and.
Speaker 2:I can have like tips and insights about how I'm moving through this transpersonal journey. For other left angles I'm, for example, a right angle and I'm here to heal myself. It then becomes empowering to take the time that you need for yourself to recharge, to, to figure out what works for you and to understand that it's not selfish. So many times there's this conditioning around, like especially like you're saying, like moms, women, working moms, it's like what You're taking, you're taking time for yourself, like what about your kids, what about your business? And then it's kind of like the shaming that happens of like oh, you were doing a spa day, like. And it's like when you're, when you're a right angle, it's like I'm here to heal myself. And it can be really empowering to you know, understand why you're here on a soul level and to let the outside noise, you know, cause, cause you to doubt yourself or to to make yourself wrong for doing things that are aligned that feel good for you.
Speaker 1:Right or to shame you into making yourself more available than you really should be.
Speaker 1:Yeah, at the end of the day, you know, because, like, we've had that healing time and moment, like so this is great. I'd actually never quite understood or could follow, like this whole right angle, left angle thing. So thank you for that. That's, that's really awesome. I just it never made a whole lot of sense to me, but then, yeah, that brings a lot of clarity to it. But then, yeah, it also helps me understand why it's like, okay, I could show up and I'm a generator too, so I also can know why it's like I can show up and I can emit and provide and give energy to others and emit energy into the world, because I'm not reflecting, I'm not projecting. I'm not reflecting, I'm not projecting, I'm not, you know, manifesting. Um, those are all different types of energies and once you all start to get into all of this, I'm also not emotional, which doesn't mean I don't have emotions.
Speaker 1:We can talk about that too here in a minute, if you'd like, but um, yeah, it also because of that, all this combination plus the left angle, it's just I just have that capacity right From a design standpoint and this really helps me to understand like where I've been with my friends and conversations lately, where it's just I just have like a capacity, a little bit more of a capacity for some things right now and for some things than others, because sometimes others just need like more of that time and space. And I think I always I always want to recognize and respect that and I think design is another way like understanding your design and others. Design is a really great way to do that.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, absolutely Like um. So my partner is a non-emotional and both my daughter and I are emotional and so, um, even getting him to understand, you know, like we we would have so many fights because, especially in the past, because he, when he is passionate about something, he wants to talk about it right then he's like if I wait, then I'm going to like lose interest, I'm not going gonna feel as passionately about it as I do right now. I want to talk about it right now. And he would poke the bear and try and get me to talk and I'd be like I don't want to talk right now because I'm gonna say something that's gonna hurt your feelings.
Speaker 2:In this state that I'm in, right, all my emotions, feeling all the feels, and I'm not gonna be like I am not gonna know how to come back from that. Right, I'm going to be scared that you're going to like use it against me. So I'd rather, if we're having a heated discussion, take some time to really reflect and assess how I feel and then come back neutrally and that's. You know, human design has helped him understand that because he's like, oh yeah, like he sees, he sees my emotional wave with my business and so he's like I understand that it's not just a me thing, it's not just you know, and it just creates that deeper level of understanding and empathy and encouragement to actually, you know, give the person what they need, which is sometimes space.
Speaker 1:Right, right and correct me if I'm wrong. I feel like non-emotionals to like, tend to like. Emotionals tend to put out a lot of emotion, like emit a lot of emotions in the way generators emit a lot of energy or provide a lot of energy into the world, but non-emotionals tend to receive. So like.
Speaker 1:For me, like as a non-emotional even though I again, we have we all have emotions it's more about like I can hold space for people's emotions. I tend to be and my daughter's also non-emotional but very, very empathic, and so it can be very draining in that sense of like I can kind of hold. When I'm holding space for others, I'm holding back and holding down my emotions, and so that can be very exhausting and very draining. So you have to kind of really be like intentional about how, when and where you're spending your energy and your emotion and giving time and space for your own emotions, because as a non-emotional you don't express it often or you don't often feel like you can. Right, because you're the container versus the one emitting it. Would you agree? Is that right?
Speaker 2:Yeah, emotionals put out that energy. And it's funny because I have this example now. We went to dinner and I have a favorite restaurant at this, uh, a favorite restaurant, a favorite waitress at this restaurant, and the host was like, okay, you're gonna be in mercia section. And I was like, oh yay, I love mercia, like this is great, it's gonna be great. And then this other waitress comes and her name is jessica and she's like hi, I'm jessica, I'll be your waitress. And and I just kind of was like but you're like, you're not Marcia.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so, um, you know, eventually they fixed it and Marcia came over and she was like yeah, I'll be your waitress, and things like that. And he's like I felt you deflate, like I felt your energy.
Speaker 2:He was like you are so excited you can read the room? Yes, and it's because you know and I want to address the non-emotional thing right Everyone has emotions. We are emotional beings, like hands down. The thing with people who have an open or undefined solar plexus, which makes you a non-emotional in human design, is that you are empathetic because you take in the energy from your environment and from other people. And for a lot of people, you know, when I'm doing readings, I'm like, you know, as a child it probably was difficult and you were labeled as emotional because it was difficult for you to you know, figure like is this mine or is this? And so sometimes people who don't have that solar plexus defined, they have short fuses because they're just like I'm taking in all this.
Speaker 1:What are you doing? It's going to spit in my gob at you.
Speaker 1:Yes, but you guys are very empathetic, which is which, which is I'm glad that you have that with your, with your daughter yeah, yeah, because she's even more so, like she just picks up on all the energy I feel like even more so than me, or maybe I have just, maybe even just I've forgotten that part of myself over the years and have conditioned myself for more to to take in less. But yeah, no, she definitely she feels it all. She feels it all, which is sometimes just hard to see because she's, you know, only 11. It's like, don't do that to yourself, you know, but yeah. So we talked a little bit earlier about trusting your gut. I want to come back to that. Through human design and this lens, what does that actually mean to practically for some of these different types?
Speaker 2:Yeah. So I consider trusting your gut to be synonymous with intuition. And so we live in a cultural context where certainty is praised over flow and it's you know, statistics and logic, and everything is praised over intuition. And so for any type, any authority, with the exception of, like mental authority because, like, that's a, that's a rare breed of authority where, like, actually everything is happening in your, in your head, but you have to talk it out and have the sounding board you know, to see how it. But even then it's like you are technically labeled as mental authority, but you have to talk it out with other people, you have to be in the right environment with those you trust so that they are your sounding board and you can hear what's being reflected back to you and see how it lands in your body once you speak it out.
Speaker 2:So in every single authority there's this element of like body. If it's your, if you're emotional, it's, you know, riding out your emotional wave and coming to a decision from an emotionally neutral place. If it's splenic, it's in the moment, you know. Right then, and there I've heard many people, many splenic projectors, talk about this whole body like hell, yes, that happens. Or like, if there's hesitation. It's probably a no or not right now, even for self-projected authority. Like they have to talk it out, they have to, they have to hear their truth and their aura in order to gain that clarity. And so in all of these, you notice how there's not, like you know, planning or like logic.
Speaker 1:There's no pros and cons list like logic.
Speaker 2:There's no pros and cons list. Right, there's no. Which way do I do? And so it's. It's this return to the wisdom that's actually in the body, and it's so hard for people, when they first find human design to to trust that, because we've been conditioned for so long that you know, if you can't back it up with a 10 point PowerPoint presentation, then like it's not valid and intuition doesn't have that. Like you said, it doesn't have a pros and cons list. You feel something or you don't, and it's. It's a process of realigning and learning how to trust the wisdom in the body, but really trust yourself, because this is something like for me as an emotional authority.
Speaker 2:I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 when I was 14. And so, for you know, over a decade I made myself wrong for my emotions. I thought that there was something wrong with me for having really strong emotions or having these up and down waves, and so it took a long time and I'm still on that path of like. Okay, what do I feel? Because for so long my feelings were invalidated. I grew up, my mom didn't have a defined solar plexus and she had a lot of mental like. Her head is defined and her Ajna is defined, and so where you have definition, that's the energy that you put out. And so a lot of times, you know, I would talk about how I felt and she'd be like, but right, and then, with her undiagnosed borderline personality with narcissistic tendencies, I would be made wrong for feeling what I felt. And so there was always this element of questioning how I felt. And now I'm in a place where I'm like, no, that's actually what I'm supposed to do. But how do I navigate these ups and downs?
Speaker 2:And that's what the experiment is all about is like learning how to trust yourself again after years of being basically programmed not to Right.
Speaker 1:And I mean talk about seeing, being able to see that disconnect, and then when you can see that kind of a disconnect one, you're finding alignment with yourself. But then you're also finding the reason behind the disconnect, so that there's not shame or blame, right, because you can see like what's behind the disconnect, right, and I think that that really helps because sometimes it's like we talk to other people, because you can see like what's behind the disconnect, right, and I think that that really helps, because sometimes it's like we talk to other people, we look at other people and we're just like what the hell are you thinking? Where are you coming from? I don't understand you. And it's because we're not designed the same. We don't, we don't, we don't process the same, we don't always emote the same, and so it's like if we can kind of just use a little bit of understanding and compassion, that's one way. But also, I think this human design stuff there's some really just cool factors to it. Um for sure, and I love what you were just saying there too about um. You know, one of my favorite quotes is just never outsource your knowing.
Speaker 1:And if anybody here also again fans of the podcast, no, I'm peacemaker and like harmony and so general consensus used to be like my mo, and it still is like when it comes to certain decisions.
Speaker 1:Right, but as far as decisions that come, it was far as I am concerned.
Speaker 1:Now I am with human design, I feel like I'm much more informed as to how I want to move in the world and make certain decisions for myself. Um, because it's just, you know, having that other information. It like the Enneagram, to me is more of like that shadow type of work where, like, the design is kind of like more of that internal knowledge, you know. And again, I don't have to like keep going outside of myself to get the consensus from everybody else. You know, it's like nice to have that alignment from other people when certain matters, but it doesn't need to be in all things. So, yeah, that used to be the way I went about everything, and now I'm like no, I don't need to call and complain or talk to everybody and process this out Sometimes, I just need to sit with myself, you know, and think through this or work through this, or trust the gut feeling that I have about this that it isn't the right thing for me and I need to make a move.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, all right, let's dig into gene keys a little bit, because this is new for me. How does it complement human design when it comes to building authentic leadership?
Speaker 2:Yeah so gene keys takes a closer look at the 64 gates in human design and gene keys they're called the 64 keys, and so it takes a closer look at the Chinese I Ching element and the quantum physics, in that every single key, every single gate has these three frequencies. And so the shadow is kind of the challenge, really. So, when you talk about like the shadow work with the enneagram, like gene keys, really so, when you talk about like the, the shadow work with the enneagram, like gene keys, this is a perfect yeah so, um, the shadow is the challenge that you're here to overcome. It's, it's gonna keep showing up and the gift, which is the next frequency up, that's what. When you embrace your creative power, that's what shines through, that's when you step into your authenticity, when you're aligned, when you're moving on your path, like that's what shines through. And then the highest frequency is the city. And so this is a transcendent realization of you know, it's like a culmination of like okay, this is, this is a line, this is that feeling of satisfaction, that feeling of satisfaction, that feeling of success, that feeling of surprise that happens when you just kind of surrender to life and just live within your gifts. And so it complements, because human design I like to see as very practical. It's like this is how you make decisions, these are your gifts and this is how your energy flows. This is where some of your conditioning comes in. And then Gene Keys is for a lot. I like to see it as a more in-depth personal development tool because it involves a lot of contemplation. It involves a lot of thinking about your past and how these shadows have shown up and how could you have turned those into the gift, how can you be in your awareness more so that you don't dip into whatever that shadow is Like.
Speaker 2:For me, in my brand sphere, in my what I'm here to do in this lifetime, I'm here to be a force of continual expansion, and that's actually the gift of expansion. But the shadow is immaturity, this being in a place of external fixation and external validation and not being internally grounded. And you can see the relationship of when you let go of this. Need this fixation for external people to say like, oh, you're doing great, which the school system does not help this at all because it's all about like grades and everything. But you have to like, let go of that. And once you're able to validate yourself.
Speaker 2:Once you're able to have that internal stillness, you do expand more, you're able to step into more things and at its highest frequency, the city is super abundance, which that was a trip for me, because it it was a push to actually even redefine what I thought of as abundance, cause so many of us we equate abundance with money or or this you know, outside things, but there's so many different variations. There's health abundance, there's time abundance, there's, you know, relationship abundance. There's so many different elements that can be pulled in there, and so I think that it complements because you know, when you've been in the experiment for a long time but you're still hitting some of those blocks in your conditioning, the gene keys, being able to look at some of those, you know, tumultuous times in your life where maybe you chose the shadow out of fear, out of lack, out of scarcity, out of this distrust, like how can you trust yourself enough to live in the gift, to show up in the highest frequency that you can?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love that so much and it kind of brings it back to where you started, which is redefining success Right, stop chasing the things that aren't truly for you, because what's going to happen is you're going to work your ass off, you're going to get there and you're going to go. Why aren't I happy? I worked so hard? Where's that shining moment of success and triumph? I just it falls flat and you're wondering why? Here's why I love it All. Right, we've talked about comparison a lot today, but I think it just it's, it's so you just can't say it enough. It's. You know, we live in a very digital, heavy, social media heavy world where comparisons is just constantly in our face. How can women use some of these tools that we've talked about today to stay grounded and kind of find their unique value, to just avoid this trap?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I found that really leaning into your gifts, so doing. I always say do a reading because it's the quickest way. Like I am a one line in human design and so that's the investigator, researcher, so I love going down a good rabbit hole. I've watched videos, I've read different books and so you know human design is one of those things that lots of people can go and Google and find different information. But if you really want like practical strategies and tips for your design, I always say grab a reading so you can get that understanding. Because once you have an understanding of what you're here to do in this lifetime like I always start with like the incarnation cross, because it tells you what you're here to do, what you're here to learn what deeply fulfills you and what your purpose is, and once you know and understand what that is for yourself, then other people trying to push you on a different path or make you be something that you're not, you're just like. That's not. You know that's not the way I was designed, that's not in alignment, and you're able to have that validation with these tools of like I was designed this way, I'm. This is how I, my soul, chose to show up in this lifetime, how my energy presents itself to those around me and how I interact with the world, and so it can be really empowering to lean into these tools and to exit out the outside noise.
Speaker 2:Like one of the things that I recently had to do in my business was figure out all of the little things that I was leaning into that was causing me to exert more energy and effort in my business than was actually needed at the time.
Speaker 2:Like, many of us use social media in our business and there's this kind of unspoken, sometimes spoken, rule I don't know if it's still spoken because I've been in the process of exiting out outside noise but there's this rule of like if someone comments, you have to respond back like within an hour or the algorithm's going to ding you or whatever.
Speaker 2:And I'm like, and I spent so much time and effort trying to adhere to these unspoken rules that you know I've just been, you know, hearing about, and what I found is that when you actually do what feels right for you, you still like you have much more success. And not only do you have much more success, you, you feel better, like you were saying there's this, this, when you're trying to do all the things that people say that you should do in order to find that joy, to find that fulfillment. It's almost like, well, I did the things and I don't have that, so what, what am I not doing? And then you, you're forced to continually get that external noise in trying to tell you like, okay, well, you did these things and it you don't have it, so why don't you do these other things? And then you spend so much time and energy like doing things versus like being able to validate yourself, being able to say like this is what feels right in my business, being able to, to bring those elements out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then again, you're not comparing you're not comparing and you're not trying the things that aren't going to be working for you. What would you say is the most surprising insight you've discovered about leadership through combining both your brand strategy and human design?
Speaker 2:The most surprising thing that I found about leadership.
Speaker 2:With this combination so many of us we have a message that sometimes people are scared to share. So we put on these, these masks of what we think we should be sharing, and it has been the greatest joy to see the surprise on my client's face when I'm like well, this is actually in your like, for example, in your Mercury. You're designed to share or you know, this is in your North or South mode, and so this is how this has shown up in your life and this is what you're moving into, and it's actually a line for you to talk about that. And they're like, oh my gosh, like I thought people were gonna shun me for that. And so just giving them the encouragement of like no, yeah, like that's actually, and then seeing the, the transformation that happens when they start leaning into what it is that's actually aligned for them to share. It's like, oh my gosh, I didn't know it could be this easy because we've been conditioned to believe that is hard. It's you got to grind and hustle and do all this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it's kind of like helping them, so it's like affirming right, that internal voice, not the imposter syndrome, the opposite, right, the authentic, true voice that the imposter syndrome has been speaking over and rudely interrupting for God knows how long, right, and it's like the human design has been able to sort of tap that voice and say hey, yo, actually you are the one we're supposed to be listening to and hearing, but social conditioning has been telling us, you know, keep it down, keep it shut. And it is so true I think you know. All of this aside, I think it was interesting.
Speaker 1:I was actually having a conversation with my husband last night. When we started this conversation, I said you know, imposter syndrome is real for both men and women. He left academia and went into the professional world for the first time in his entire life and it's been different. You know it's a different world and you know he's a researcher, he's introverted, but he wants to be social, he wants to feel connected, he wants to have friends. And you know, I told him I said one of the biggest unlocks for me, I think, was really just finding that people want to know the real you, they want to hear your true, authentic voice and that if you are willing to just open up and share a little bit more and hold back a little bit less I'm not saying you just need to go out and be like obnoxious and rude and inappropriate, but I think if you just be, you know what would it look like to be 10% more you, 10% more authentic, you know, because he's a wonderful human being with loads of great ideas.
Speaker 1:So I'm like I don't know what you're trying to hold back, but like it's like if you were to just be a little bit more that, what would that look like? You know, because I feel like the more granted you know, we have such a great safe space here with Together Digital where women can kind of really step into and practice that authentic voice in a space that they don't have to worry about being shamed for or, you know, having backlash for.
Speaker 1:So I have that privilege of just having that all the time and I forget how to act in polite society. So I'm just used to just being able to talk about all the things. But yeah, you know not having that privilege, I understand. You know a lot of us pick up and put on sometimes mini masks in one day and I just do think a lot of this. So any tool that you can pick up and start to use for self-awareness, to tap into, find that authentic voice and give yourself permission. When you put that out, people are so afraid it's going to detract, but it really does attract, like you said, it attracts opportunity, it attracts friendship and connections in ways that you're just going to be so surprised by.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly Yay.
Speaker 1:Can you tell I just love all this stuff? Surprised by yeah, exactly, yay. Can you tell I just love all this stuff so much? All right, we've got some folks listening live, as always, so we love having our live listening audience. Before we go into our fun power round of questions, just want to make sure that you all know you can ask questions in the chat If you have them. I know all this stuff. You guys are like some of them. You're like what do you guys? I don't know what's been going on for the last hour, but you've all hung in there. So a couple of questions. Actually, like I want to make sure that we ask before we go to the power round, questions too. Is you know, if folks want to learn more about human design, what are some good general resources for them?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so on my website they can pull their chart and I actually send them a cheat sheet that helps them decode their design, as well as a playlist on my YouTube channel which goes into visual explanations of these different things. Another resource that I have found super helpful a lot of people know the traditional human design language, but Karen Curry Parker she actually has language in quantum human design which actually takes it a step further and talks about emotional authority as creative authority, and so it's a little bit more empowering and it brings in some of the different quantum elements of inside the body.
Speaker 2:So I'd say any of her work is amazing to learn more about human design.
Speaker 1:Oh, that rabbit hole just got a little bit deeper for me. Oh, my goodness, I will be sure to include some of those links for the YouTube channel and your website into our show notes as well. All right, I checking the. Let me check the chat to see if we've got anything in there. No questions yet, but all right, we'll hit the the um. Let me make sure I have the right open live stream chat. There we go. Oh, look at that, danielle. Thank you so much. She's my woman today on the um and all the resources and the links. Look at her, she's on fire.
Speaker 2:You're the best.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was in the wrong chat. I was like I have a sense I'm in the wrong chat. All right, cool, cool, cool, fantastic. Um, sharon was asking what app are we using? Do you have an app that you use for any of?
Speaker 2:this. So I know Jenna has her app, the my Human Design app. Most of the time I just have people download their chart so they can have it as a quick reference. Mine is actually my screensaver.
Speaker 1:That's a great idea. Quick reference.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm like oh wait, they're talking about Gay 28. I think I have that. Oh, okay, Now I can really lock in and tune in.
Speaker 1:That's fantastic. And then Grinnell was asking if there's like something about the numbers, what are the numbers? Oh, the profile Did that for just a second, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the profile line. So there are six different lines, 12 different profiles in human design, and so essentially this goes into how your energy shows up in the world. So the first part of the fraction looking number is how other people see you. It's kind of like what your aura presents to the world. And then the second part of the fraction is your underlying script of how you interact with the world.
Speaker 2:So you know, as we were talking about earlier with the three five, so a lot of people probably see these women if, yeah, you said they're the same, they see them like trying out a bunch of stuff. They see them, you know, bumping into things, learning things through that. But the five is the solutions person, the challenge solver, the save the day kind of energy, and so they're always going to be looking to to fix something, and so that's just their underlying script. For me, I'm a five one, so other people need to, yes, yes, and I and I kind of sense that when you're like, oh, this is going to take me deeper and so, like, the five is, you know, like about the expectations that we set for people, because if they project that, we can help them with something that actually we don't have a foundation in, then it turns very quickly from oh my gosh, you're my savior, you're awesome, you're amazing, to like oh my God, I hate you. Like why did you give me this advice? Like it didn't work for me.
Speaker 2:And then your reputation is kind of on the line. So the five lines have to be really careful about. You know who they're attracting and what solutions they're providing. And then our one line we're investigators. We love getting to the bottom of stuff, we love a good rabbit hole, a strong foundation of knowledge, which we also have to be careful because sometimes it can be hard to trust that you know enough to then take it to the, to the world. That was one of the things about human design that really resonated with me yeah, yeah, that's so, so interesting.
Speaker 1:I love that. Yeah, this whole like when you were talking earlier too, I almost brought up my five one. When you were talking about the fix, the fixer, I was like, oh, when I was reading that portion of it, the challenge solver, I was like, oh, okay, yeah, yeah, no, I don't have to try to fix everything. But then also, being like the voluntold one constantly where you know it's like I get it that you might have natural leadership tendencies, but it's just ridiculous how you could walk into a room and say very little and somehow still, how do I walk out of the room being the one told like, oh, you're going to lead this right. I'm like I didn't even say anything. How did this happen? But once I read that I was like, oh, okay, got it. Yes, oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1:Well, thank you all for dropping the questions in during the conversation. I love it. I love it, and don't be afraid to reach out to Diamond as well if you have any additional questions after yes, all right, let's go through these rapid fire questions real quick. What is your go-to mantra when self-doubt creeps in?
Speaker 2:It's one of two things. So what's on the other side of this, or what story am I telling myself here?
Speaker 1:Oh, I like both of those. Those are great. Three words or less. What's the biggest mistake people make when dealing with imposter syndrome?
Speaker 2:Caught in comparison.
Speaker 1:Yes, ma'am, can't say that enough. If you could put one message on a billboard about authentic leadership, what would it say?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so sometimes the bravest thing you can do is trust that inner voice that's saying there's another way.
Speaker 1:I love it too. All right, last one, complete the sentence. The moment you'll know you're stepping into your power is when.
Speaker 2:The moment you'll know you're stepping into your power is when, without any extra effort other than living your truth and teaching what you've mastered, the universe starts to bring you opportunities that you're excited to take advantage of.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love it. You're so prepared.
Speaker 2:I love it.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much, diamond. This was wonderful. I hope all of our listeners really enjoyed this and again just found one more tool and way to learn more about themselves, feel empowered and hopefully understand and empower others as well. This is fantastic, diamond, thank you so much thank you of course, of course, and thank you live listeners.
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